Whether you’re using toys, condoms or you have sensitive skin, the right product is out there.
Women often come up against vaginal dryness once estrogen levels drop as they age (and become wiser!).
If this is you, you may find that you need to use lubricant so that sex doesn’t simply become an uncomfortable chore to be knocked off the to-do list. No one wants tiny tears down there if they can help it, no doubt.
The thing is, buying lubricant may be something you’re familiar with, but for some it’s a first and the choice sitting on the drugstore shelves can be daunting.
How can you choose the right lube for you? It takes some time and consideration and trial and error, but hopefully you’ll eventually find something that’s close to a perfect fit.
Here are some questions you may want to ask yourself in the quest to find the right product to suit your amorous needs:
1) Do I Have Sensitive Skin?
This is a key question to ask, as there’s nothing more awkward in the heat of passion than a vagina burning for love in all the wrong ways. Trust me. If you have other skin allergies or irritations when you use soaps or creams, there’s a possibility that you’ll experience the same thing with lubricants.
To avoid any nasty experiments go for a simple, straight forward water-based lube, without any of the frills like cinnamon flavors or cannabis-infusion. I know, it sounds fun, but it’s probably better to steer clear.
2) Will We Be Using Toys?
It’s good to know that personal lubricants come in three main types: those that are water-based, silicone-based and oil- based. If you’re using sex toys to liven up your life, you’ll need to avoid silicone-based lubes as they can ruin the material they’re made from. Bad news.
The good news is that you can buy something else: you’ll want to buy an oil-based or water-based product (preferably), in order to keep everything in good condition.
3) Are We Using a Condom?
Hopefully the answer to this is a rousing, “why, yes!” Ladies and gents, it’s a fact that the rates of sexually transmitted infections are “skyrocketing” for seniors.
Why? Because you guys don’t think you need to use condoms. Read all about it here, on Psychologytoday.com. Sure, you may not be worrying about accidentally making babies, but think about your sexual health, kids!
Apparently since 2007, cases of syphilis in seniors have gone up by 52 percent, and chlamydia by 32 percent.
The scariest thing is that some STIs, are becoming drug resistant: ie, you may go to the doctor to cure it by seeking antibiotics, only to find out that they, (the antibiotics), don’t work.
So, in general, it’s a good idea to wear a condom at any age. When you do, avoid oil-based lubricants as they tend to eat away at latex and destroy it. Stick to water-based products, or silicone ones.
4) Do I Want it to Taste Like Something?
Yumm, strawberry! If you don’t have skin sensitivities and you’d like a little extra fun on the side, flavored lubricants can be amusing to try. They come in all shades, shapes and sizes. Weed, root beer, whiskey (!), you name it, someone’s made it.
5) If Yes, Does it Need to be Kosher?
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